From: Doug (gryphon4101_at_comcast.net)
Date: Fri Nov 21 2003 - 19:15:50 GMT
Hey everyone,
I would just like to point out something that I have noticed. I know that it's already been apologized for, but I wanted to make it clear from a GM. Please do not clarify player's posts on the list. For one thing, it clutters it up. For another thing, if it is something you want clarity on then don't assume everyone else needs clarity as well.
If a character acts out in some way in reaction to something your character did and you did not intend it to be taken as such, go ahead and post to the group and state something like "<OOC: Sorry everyone. I guess I gave the impression that Joe was following the pretty girl when in fact he was actually just staring at her"> Now here's the thing. ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY EVEN IF YOU FEEL YOU AREN'T IN THE WRONG. Swallow your pride and acknowledge that what you said may have been interpreted another way. Those of you who are married or in a relationship hopefully know this is a very important thing to do. And if you expect to be in a relationship without doing it then you will most likely burn in hell. Just kidding.
It really is important to do though guys. Simply apologize for how it was interpreted, assume it was your fault in how you described what you were doing, and explain again in a different way. Even if it's only one person who interprets your character that way and everyone else seems to have understood it the way you intended.
If you do need to send another player a post, you should be courteous and say something like "I'm sorry, I'm not understanding where Joe is right now. Is he in the whore house or in the bar? It didn't appear clear to me."
DO NOT SAY, "How can Joe be in the whore house AND in the bar? You didn't explain that very well. And besides that, apparently you didn't even read where the GM said 'Joe follows the girl into the bar'?"
They are both lame, but I hope I am proving a point.
Please guys, be careful not to be critical of other players and how they are role playing or what they are doing. Someone once did that in my wife's game and was very critical about things in the game and NPCs and such. Everyone else was trying to enjoy the story, and he kept trying to find out all the little nit-pickey things that we sometimes notice in games. Because of this, my wife refuses to ever GM outside of family and even hesitates at doing that much. Everyone else in the game was very disappointed because they were loving it. It was an Earthdawn murder mystery.
Your criticism may be taken wrong and may very well cause a player to leave the game, or worse, never play again. Think before you speak, and always take responsibility for your own actions. Apologize even if you don't think you are in the wrong.
Sorry if this seemed like a parent-child lecture, but I felt it was necessary.
Thanks,
Doug
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